Knowing Yourself.

When we’re pushing ourselves, we learn our boundaries, we learn our limits, we learn about what we enjoy, we learn our strengths and what we need to work on more.

We discover our ultimate fears, we discover our dreams, we get a taster of what we can really be like when we push ourselves to the limit.

So, how do we get to know ourselves?

Write – Write a list of what you don’t want to write about, be completely honest with yourself, write about what you don’t want to think about, get it out on paper. Therein lies your fears, write as if you’re writing in your journal, nobody else is going to read this, it’s for yourself. You don’t have to keep it, throw it away, eat it, burn it (don’t set your house on fire), shred it, do with it what you will but once you realise your fears, get them out your system it’s a lot easier to deal with them, you’ve organised your thoughts and treated yourself to a bit of reflection and it really can be quite cathartic.

Reflect and realisation – Take a quiet 30 minutes to yourself. Switch the phone off (don’t panic!) and do my favourite morning practice – go a walk or sit down and meditate, anything to relieve your mind from distraction and think. Think about what you were doing five years ago until now. What have you achieved in these past five years? Really think about it. A lot of people think they haven’t done much, or put themselves down and say that they haven’t done enough. Well, now is your chance to answer to yourself, that age old question of where do you want to be in five years? What do you want to achieve in the next five years?

Appreciation and gratitude – What makes you happy? What makes you smile? What makes you feel at peace? What propels you to go on with your day and pushes you to keep going? Are they friends? Are they places? Is it a song? Is it a painting? Is it yourself? Whatever it is, be thankful. Not many people realise how many moments they’ve had that make them happy, everyone tends to focus on what bad things have happened and let themselves be consumed by this. Focus and be grateful of the little things that you don’t always appreciate. The little guy always deserves appreciation, be that the man who sold the newspaper with a smile, the woman who held the door open for you to get on the train, the kind stranger who gave you the train ticket return they didn’t need anymore, the moment your child hugged you tightly and called you their ‘bestest superhero’. There are heroes out there waiting to make you smile and appreciate what you’ve got whether you want to see it or not.

Self-affirmation – No, this isn’t a gimmick. Write down or take a note in your phone of every compliment every single person has given you for two weeks. No matter how small or insignificant you think they are. Each night, read them to yourself. It only takes twenty one days to form a new habit. Make this one of yours and soon you’ll start to affirm with yourself and make these a habit for yourself to believe and accept.

To your success.



Tahar is a bestselling author of “Fail Your Way to Success” and an internationally renowned speaker on leadership, real estate investing, entrepreneurship and productivity. His privately held real estate investment company conducts sales revenues exceeding $1.5 billion a year.

He has challenged and changed the way people think in pursuit of their scaling their business and pursuing their dreams. His business has made him a valuable resource for media seeking commentary and insights on real topics that matter. He urges everyone he speaks with to make success their duty, responsibility, and obligation.

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