Know Your Place in People's Lives
Let me ask you something. And I want you to be honest with yourself.
Do you know where you stand in the lives of the people around you? Not where you hope you stand. Not where you think you should stand. Where you actually stand.
Because there's a difference. A massive one.
The Waiting Game
I've seen it too many times. Good people — loyal people, genuine people — sitting around waiting for someone to choose them. Waiting for the phone call. Waiting for the invite. Waiting for the acknowledgement that never comes.
And every single time it doesn't come, they make an excuse for the other person. "They're busy." "They've got a lot on." "Maybe they forgot."
No. They didn't forget. You're just not a priority. And the sooner you accept that, the sooner you can do something about it.
Options vs Priorities
Here's the truth. When someone truly values you, you feel it. There's no guessing. No anxiety. No "maybe later." You're not waiting by the phone wondering if they'll get back to you. You're not analysing every message trying to decode what they really meant.
When you're valued, you know it. When you're an option, you feel that too. The difference isn't subtle. It's screaming at you. Most of us just choose not to listen.
What You Teach People
I learned this the hard way. Years ago, in business and in life, I let people treat me like I was disposable. I was always available. Always understanding. Always making allowances for behaviour that, looking back, I should never have tolerated.
And you know what happened? They kept doing it. Because I let them.
The moment you accept less than you deserve, you set the standard. You teach people exactly how to treat you. And once that standard is set, good luck trying to raise it. People don't suddenly start treating you better when you've spent years showing them they don't have to.
Moving Accordingly
This isn't about being bitter. It's not about burning bridges or cutting people off in a rage. It's about clarity.
Know where you're respected. Know where you're not. And move accordingly.
Some of the most powerful decisions I've ever made weren't dramatic. They were quiet. I just stopped showing up for people who never showed up for me. I stopped investing energy into relationships that only went one way. I stopped waiting to be chosen by people who had already made their choice.
And that freed me. It freed my time, my energy, and my headspace to focus on the people and the things that actually mattered.
The Standard Is Yours
You don't need anyone's permission to raise your standards. You don't need to explain to someone why you've decided to stop accepting crumbs. That's your decision. And it's one of the most important decisions you'll ever make.
Because the people who are meant to be in your life? They won't make you question it. They'll make you feel certain.
Stop settling for less. You deserve better than "maybe."
To your success.
Tahar
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Read the full story of my journey in my book, Fail Your Way to Success.